Brazen Careerist: Get off Your Ass, and Go on an Adventure

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ARTICLE 2: "If You're Stuck, Take an Adventure"

by Penelope Trunk

"If you’re out of work, or your job is so annoying that you wish you were out of work, then it’s time to take an adventure. Some might say that an adventures is an expensive, childish way to avoid reality. This is partly true. But who cares?

The reality of adulthood is hard. There are no teachers stroking your ego with A’s, there are no parents making sure you’re doing fun and challenging activities every afternoon. So it is no surprise that putting off adulthood looks appealing. In fact, taking an adventure to see how other people do their lives is a good first step into adulthood because there is no better way to choose your life than to see how other people live.

There are some great things you can accomplish while you’re adventuring:

You can use an adventure as a way out of a bad job. It’s very hard to quit a job when you have nothing else lined up. But it’s very hard to line up a new job while you’re working at your current job. So a good way to ease yourself out of your job is to go on an adventure. You can tell yourself that you must quit now – now is the time for adventure.

You can sort out personal problems. A lot of career issues are actually personal issues. Do I want to be a doctor or do I want to please my parents? Do I want to settle down or do I feel pressure from my boyfriend? These are issues that dictate your career choices, but cannot be solved by changing jobs or rewriting your resume. Putting yourself in a new situation, away from the outside influencers you are used to – is will help you get a more clear perspective.

You can learn what you don’t want. When I worked on a family chicken farm in rural France, one day, when we spent three hours looking for mushrooms in the forest, I said, “Why do we have to keep looking? It’s taking so long and it’s only mushrooms. Let’s go home." And the father said, “But how will we have wild mushrooms for salad?" I couldn’t believe it. I wanted to have my mom buy some at the grocery store and send them via airmail. This is when I knew that although living close to the land looks appealing from the outside, but to me it felt monotonous and intellectually dissatisfying.

There are a few ways to get the money to travel. The most obvious is that you should alter your lifestyle And prolific travel blogger Ali Watters has a few suggestions: Don’t get a car or a mortgage unless you absolutely need one Give up smoking or expensive trips to coffee shops – it wastes money each day. Stay away from material possessions. Before each purchase ask yourself what you’ll do with it while you’re traveling.

Ali also recommends that you go somewhere cheap; a month in Europe will cost you three times as much as a month in South East Asia.

If Ali’s advice is too hard to swallow, you might try lining up a job that’s an adventure. If you are under thirty years old you might be able to benefit from reciprocal work agreements with the United Kingdom, Australia and New Zealand.

Adventure is a good choice for a lot of people. It will give you perspective on a career that’s stuck, and if you don’t even have a career, there’s little difference between a good entry level job and an adventure. Both are about learning, trying new things, and making sure you don’t starve. So when you are looking at your job choices, put travel right up there on top with everything else. It’s good for your resume and good for your life.

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Brazen Careerist: Stop Worrying, Twentysomethings, Being Lost is Okay

Today I stumbled upon the Penelope Trunk's blog, Brazen Careerist, and went nuts over her honest, truthful, hip, and all-around fucking awesome take on happiness and careers. She's not new to scene but new to me, so I'm using the next few days to present a few articles that give some of the best (and often relieving) freaking advice I've ever read on a blog. Feel free to explore her site here for many more.Besides the aging paedophiliacs reading this, most of my readership are twentysomethings who are in/out/between college/graduate school. Many of your parents (and you) are freaking out about what the hell you're doing with your life. Well take it easy, because the Penelope wants to let your 'rents in on something...

Article 1: "Stop Worrying that Your Twenty Something Is Lost"

by Penelope Trunk

Here is an open letter to all the parents, aunts and uncles who write to me asking for advice about the twentysomething in their life who is an incorrigible underachiever:

Lighten up! No one should be labeled an underachiever in their twenties! The first thing you should ask yourself is whose standards are you using? This is not the same workplace that existed ten years ago. There are new rules, and you need to stop applying the old rules to someone who has no need for them.

The people who know exactly what they want to do when they are 22 are called, in the land of sociology, "fast starters." And today that is only 12% of the workforce. In general, these people are conservative, taking paths their parents took, and do not ask a lot of questions. The majority of twentysomethings today move back home with their parents , job hop every 18 months, and refuse to pay their dues.

And you know what? These are all good decisions. To you, these decisions might look like decisions that losers make, but the world is different. Do you know what a loser is today? A loser is someone who doesn't take the time to get to know herself. A loser is someone who saw his parents earn a lot of money and not get happiness from it and still deludes himself that money will make him happy. A loser is someone who looks for fame or prestige. A loser is someone who lets someone else tell them what success looks like.

Today success is personal. It's about using the years of emerging adulthood to figure out what works for you. This is time to experiment - try things and quit them and try other things. This is a time to have gaps in resumes, red in bank accounts, and a suitcase packed, ready to go at a moment's notice. These are symptoms of someone who is learning a lot and growing a lot.

Personal growth looks a lot like being lost. Lost is okay. Who wouldn't be with twenty years of schooling and no preparation for adult life? People grow more when they are lost then when they are on a straight path with a clear view of where they are going.

need a map?

Don't tell me that your kid is a bar tender and will never grow up. Bar tenders have some of the best social skills in the workforce, and social skills are what matters. Bar tenders are not underachievers. Also, did you ever stop to ask your bar-tender kid what he does during the day when he's not pouring drinks? He's probably doing something fun and cool and a little risky that you didn't have the guts to try til you had a midlife crisis.

And don't tell me about your kid who isn't finishing college. No one said college has to happen right away. No one has research to show that if you do college right after high school you will be a happier person. But people do have research to show that if you take time to find yourself during your twenties then you will avoid a quarterlife crisis. So maybe it's okay that your niece is taking a year off of college to travel in Thailand. Or knit sweaters.

...or play xbox. LOST!

Stop judging the twentysomethings. Instead, look at yourself. Why is it so important for your twentysomething to make choices that you like? In fact, the most successful people in today's workplace are making choices that would have seemed absurd ten years ago. And things that are true today were not true ten years ago.

And have a heart. It's not easy to be a twentysomething today. These young people grew up with tons of structure, tons of adults watching over them, tons of accolades. It's a hard adjustment to go into the adult world where there is none of this. The most successful transitions happen when the person making the change receives time to adjust, space to grow, and support for tough decisions.

Have some patience. Most people find what they want to do with their life by the time they are 30. Really. And they are already putting so much pressure on themselves to find a good life. They don't need more pressure from you.

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